Is it Important to Tell My Family I am Pregnant?

It’s hard enough to find out you’re unexpectedly pregnant, but it can seem even harder when faced with something else…How to tell my family I’m pregnant, and should I?

That question can bring back the shakiness and panic that hit when you first saw the results on your home pregnancy test. It might even be worse, depending on how you think they’ll respond to the news, and most women don’t expect it to go well.

Before you jump right in and blurt out, “I’m pregnant,” there are some things you should think about first.

Which Path to Take

There are options for you to consider as you look ahead to the future. Which option do you think is best for you—abortion, adoption or parenting? If you are unsure, that’s ok. At Willowbrook Women’s Center, we know this isn’t an easy choice to make.

Come in to see us and talk over your situation. We are here to support you and will go over all the information with you, make sure we answer your questions, and help you make a confident decision. This way, when your family asks questions, you will have answers ready, and be able to give them the reasons behind them.

Before You Talk to Them

Once you have decided what path to take, there are some things you should think about before talking to your family.

Where do you want to tell them? At home, at some other place? If at home, is there a particular room where you would feel most comfortable? If somewhere else, will you be able to make sure there is privacy?

What time of day would be best? It’s usually not a good idea to have this type of conversation, and then a short time later, say you have to leave. This is also a conversation best avoided right before bed when everyone is tired and cranky.

Do you want your partner there when you tell them? If he wants you to make a different choice than you have, will that make it harder if he is there? Would it be better if you had him come over after you tell them? Or, do you want someone else there with you?

Another option could be writing them a letter sharing your news and telling them you would like to talk to them afterward, perhaps setting the time out far enough that they can think things over and calm down before you return.

Prepare for Their Reactions

Before you talk with your family, consider their feelings and how they will react. They might be angry, frightened for you, shaky, stunned, silent, sad, or generally freak out, spitting out questions faster than you can answer them. They might feel they have failed you in some way, and guilt can be displayed in a variety of ways, from tears to yelling.

On the other hand, they may be excited for you or they might disagree with the path you’ve chosen.

Get the Conversation Started

When you have this kind of news, it’s best to say it upfront, but there are different ways you can tell your family you are pregnant. No matter what, do your best to stay calm.

You might start with, “I need to tell you something, but I’m afraid you’ll be upset/angry/disappointed…with/in me.” Or, “I have something to tell you. I’m pregnant.” You might start asking for support, by saying, “I’m pregnant and I really need your support.”

No matter what path you choose or how you get the conversation started, Willowbrook Women’s Center is here for you. We are glad to be able to offer you a no-cost pregnancy test to confirm your at-home test results, an ultrasound to confirm the viability of the pregnancy, and answers to all your questions. Make an appointment today.


New Relationship: Unplanned Pregnancy

Being in a new relationship is exciting and scary at the same time. You’re just beginning to get to know each other and figuring out if you are a good fit together. Finding out you have an unplanned pregnancy adds a whole bunch of new questions into the mix.

How do you tell him you’re pregnant? How will he feel about it? What will he want you to do? Even more than those questions, how do you feel about it? What should you do? What is the best decision for you?

We Can Help You

At Willowbrook Women’s Center, we can help you answer some of these questions, give you all the information you need to make the right decision for you, and give you guidance on how to tell him you’re pregnant.

Our advocates and licensed medical personnel are here for YOU. We will provide you with unbiased, truthful information in a non-judgmental environment to help guide you in your decision-making process.

Additional Testing Offered

We will listen to your concerns and will offer you a free, lab-quality pregnancy test to make sure you receive accurate results. Some home tests may not give accurate results, could be expired, or might have been taken too early.

If your test comes back positive, we recommend you have a free ultrasound done at our office, especially if you are considering an abortion. This will allow us to make sure your pregnancy is viable and not ectopic, a condition that is dangerous and requires medical attention. It will also tell you how far along you are in your pregnancy.

Sometimes an ultrasound will show that the pregnancy, for one of many different reasons besides ectopic, is not viable and likely to result in a miscarriage. Between 15 and 25 percent of pregnancies end in miscarriage, and we don’t want you to have a procedure done which is unnecessary.

STD testing is another important step to be taken if considering an abortion. If gone untreated, and an abortion is performed, an STD could lead to Pelvic Inflammatory Disease and lifelong reproductive problems and pain. With testing, we can then refer you to a clinic for treatment.

Information Provided

We will also answer your questions about all options open to you: abortion, parenting and adoption. There is no pressure to choose one option over another. Our goal is to provide you with all the information you need to make the best choice for you.

Willowbrook Women’s Center is a safe place for you to discuss these options with an advocate and licensed medical staff you can trust. They can explain the different abortion procedures, what they cost, and the risk factors associated with each of the procedures. They can also give you information about parenting and adoption.

Make an appointment today so we can meet you and help you find the answers you need.

 

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