What Men Want To Know Most About Their Partner’s Unexpected Pregnancy
What Men Want To Know Most About Their Partner’s Unexpected Pregnancy

Have you just found out your partner is unexpectedly pregnant? It’s a scary reality to face and has left you asking questions you haven’t thought about before.

We’ve talked with many men like you who were also shocked by their partner’s unplanned pregnancies. We hope this article gives you helpful insight into what you might want to know about your partner’s unexpected pregnancy.

The first thing you want to know is, “Now what?” So let’s answer that question first.

My Partner Is Unexpectedly Pregnant: Now What?

When you hear any shocking news that will affect your life, it leaves you wondering what happens now. The very first steps are to take care of both you and your partner and find accurate information to help in the decision-making process.

Step 1: Care for your partner AND yourself.

There’s no doubt about it — an unplanned pregnancy is one of the most stressful situations for you and your partner to get through. And being a supportive partner while you’re also wrestling with fears about the future isn’t always easy, but you can do it!

When you get good sleep, nutrition, and encouragement, it will help you cope and stay clear-headed while you caringly stand with your partner. Here are a few tips to support your pregnant partner:

  • Even though she is the one who’s pregnant, show her you’re in this together by your words and your actions.
  • Express concern about how she feels physically and emotionally.
  • Go with her to appointments if she wants you to be there with her.
  • Learn about her pregnancy options.
  • Do not pressure her into a pregnancy decision.
  • Support her even if you disagree with her pregnancy decision.
  • Don’t “ghost” her or bail on her.

Step 2: Get neutral help for an unexpected pregnancy.

The next step of “Now what?” is to get the answers you need to help you and your partner make the best decision about what to do.

Even though deciding what to do about an unexpected pregnancy ultimately lands with your partner, you also need to learn about her pregnancy options. The best way to do that is to go to a no-cost pregnancy clinic that will not profit financially in any way from her decision. The last thing you or your partner needs right now is pressure from anyone to make one decision over another.

What you do need are unbiased facts that will help your partner make an informed decision that’s best for her. Those facts are gathered through a pregnancy test, an ultrasound, and STD (sexually transmitted disease) testing.

  • Pregnancy Test

A medical-grade pregnancy test will confirm that your partner has pregnancy hormones in her system. However, 15%-25% of known pregnancies miscarry, and a positive pregnancy test doesn’t tell you if the pregnancy is viable. A viable pregnancy is one that is progressing normally and expected to survive, and an ultrasound gives you that information.

  • Ultrasound

Pregnancy ultrasounds use sound waves to create images on a screen. It will tell the healthcare provider how far along your partner is and if the pregnancy is viable. This step is crucial if your partner is considering abortion because options will change depending on if the pregnancy appears normal and how many weeks pregnant she is.

  • STD Testing

STD testing is critical whether your partner continues her pregnancy or ends it. Most women don’t experience symptoms when they have an STD, and an untreated STD can have serious health consequences for your partner.

What Are the Options for an Unexpected Pregnancy?

The next thing men want to know about their partner’s unexpected pregnancy is what the options are. Once the healthcare provider has determined your partner has a viable pregnancy, she has three pregnancy options

1. Abortion

Abortions can be medical or surgical. Be sure to gather information about abortion side effects and risks, too, so your partner isn’t caught off guard by side effects she’s unprepared for.

2. Adoption

Placing your child with an adoptive family is a loving choice if abortion is not an option for you and you aren’t ready to be parents. Adoption is flexible and can be “closed,” “semi-open,” or “open,” depending on what level of contact (if any) you want to have with your child.

3. Parenting

People rarely feel ready to be parents, even when pregnancies are planned. But if your partner decides that abortion and adoption are not good options for her, we have resources available to support you both in your parenting journey.

How Soon Do We Have To Decide?

Another thing men want to know about their partner’s unexpected pregnancy is how soon they need to decide. Feeling a sense of urgency is common, but this is a decision that can’t be rushed; too much is at stake physically, emotionally, and spiritually — no matter which decision is made. Options do change when a pregnancy is further along, but if your partner’s medical professional tells her that she has time to decide, encourage her to take it.

What if you and your partner disagree on how to proceed from here? Do you have a say about whether or not your partner continues her pregnancy or ends her pregnancy? With good support, you and your partner can receive the tools you need to have productive conversations despite the stress of an unintended pregnancy. However, in the end, it’s your partner’s decision whether or not she chooses to continue the pregnancy.

Where Do We Get the Answers We Need About My Partner’s Unexpected Pregnancy?

You undoubtedly have many more questions about your partner’s unexpected pregnancy, and now you need to know where to find accurate information? Willowbrook is a medical pregnancy clinic that provides all services at no cost. We offer the pregnancy testing and ultrasounds that give you and your partner the facts you deserve to make a confident decision about an unintended pregnancy.

Our licensed healthcare professionals are skilled and compassionate. You and your partner will never be judged about anything, including your questions or your decisions. Our role is offering support that helps you and your partner make the best decision for you and your future. Contact us today for your confidential appointment.

How To Determine Your Risk Factors for Pregnancy and Abortion
How To Determine Your Risk Factors for Pregnancy and Abortion

Are you worried that your pregnancy might further jeopardize you and your health problems? Do you wonder if it’s riskier to continue your pregnancy or have an abortion?

This article will discuss high-risk pregnancy, abortion risks, and how to determine your risk factor for pregnancy and abortion.

What Is a High-Risk Pregnancy?

The term “high-risk” can sound rather scary, but it means that your healthcare provider will monitor you more closely because there are factors that increase your or your baby’s chances of problems.

Obstetricians (OB/GYNs) specializing in high-risk pregnancies are skilled at monitoring you closely if you have conditions that may put you at higher risk for pregnancy complications.

Common risk factors for pregnancy include:

  • Maternal age

If you are over age 35 or age 17 or younger, you may be at increased risk. Your OB/GYN will have you visit more often to catch potential problems early. Women can successfully continue their pregnancies even after 40.

  • Maternal weight

Being underweight or obese can also affect your pregnancy. If your BMI (body mass index) is under 18.5, you may have a higher risk of miscarriage or preterm birth. If your BMI is over 30, you might also be at higher risk of high blood pressure. Despite potential risks, you can still have a healthy pregnancy.

  • Existing health conditions

Having an existing health condition can cause you to feel anxious, wondering how pregnancy will affect you and your baby. Medicine is constantly advancing, and your OB/GYN will discuss ways to keep you safe during a high-risk pregnancy.

  • Multiple pregnancy

Being pregnant with multiple babies increases your risks, including giving birth too early. If your doctor has suggested you abort one or more embryos because of a multiple pregnancy, be sure to seek other opinions from high-risk OB/GYNs so you can make an informed decision about your situation. And keep in mind that  98% of triplets born at 28 weeks (3 months prematurely) survive.

Is It Riskier To Continue Your High-Risk Pregnancy or Have an Abortion?

Abortion is so common in our culture that it’s easy to forget that it has risks, too. Researchers report that women are four times more likely to die within the year after an abortion than after giving birth.

Abortion risks include:

  • Infection
  • Sepsis or septic shock
  • Damage to cervix or uterus
  • Uterine perforation
  • Injury to bowel or bladder
  • Uterine scarring
  • Hemorrhaging
  • Future infertility, miscarriage, preterm delivery
  • Post-abortion stress syndrome (PASS)/depression
  • Death

How To Determine Your Risk Factors for Pregnancy and Abortion

If you are considering abortion due to your risk factors, it’s critical to gather all the information you can so you can feel secure about the decision you make.

  1. Do your own research. Consider joining online groups to talk to others who have been in your shoes and have access to resources.
  2. Get multiple professional opinions from high-risk OB/GYNs who have a complete understanding of your specific risk factors. Bring a list of questions with you.
  3. Trust your gut.

Willowbrook Can Help You Decide

Willowbrook offers compassionate pregnancy services from licensed healthcare professionals at no cost to help you decide what is best for you and your health. Make your confidential appointment today.

Our Advice for Coping With an Unplanned Pregnancy

Shock. The universal feeling as you look at your positive pregnancy test when you never expected to be pregnant. This is the time to be intentional about taking good care of yourself during this confusing time. It may help to begin with following our advice for coping with an unplanned pregnancy.

Our Advice for Coping With an Unplanned Pregnancy

Every day, we help women just like you cope with their unplanned pregnancies. Following are four pieces of helpful advice we’ve created after talking with hundreds of women in your shoes.

1. Slow down and take one step at a time.

It’s common for panic to set in when you discover you’re pregnant and you didn’t plan on it. Take a deep breath to help slow down your racing thoughts. Focus on your next step today rather than imagine anxious scenarios down the road that may never happen.

It’s also critical to resist the temptation to rush forward while you’re feeling shocked or panicky to avoid making an emotionally charged pregnancy decision.

2. Confide in someone you trust.

Some women want to hide what they are going through, but in most cases, it’s easier to cope with an unplanned pregnancy when you have the support of at least one person you can trust will have your best interest at heart. It could be your partner, your best friend, your mom — anyone who has a solid track record of validating your feelings and empowering you rather than dictating decisions for you.

3. Get your pregnancy confirmed.

You might be tempted to begin thinking about what to do about your unexpected pregnancy from the moment you see the positive pregnancy test. But a critical step before doing that is to get your pregnancy confirmed with your healthcare professional or local pregnancy clinic.

Since up to 20% of known pregnancies end in miscarriage, confirming your pregnancy lets you know if your pregnancy is viable or not. If you do have a viable pregnancy, you will also learn how far along you are, which impacts the pregnancy options that are available to you.

4. Learn about your pregnancy options with an unbiased healthcare professional.

As much as your friends and family love you, they may be biased about your decision, which means they have opinions that serve themselves rather than you. For this reason, it’s essential to review all your available options with an experienced advocate who can inform you of all the facts you need about each option you have available to you for an unplanned pregnancy.

An unbiased healthcare advocate will provide you with accurate information and answer your parenting, adoption, and abortion questions. They can also connect you with valuable community resources that you may not have known existed. Advocates are experts in helping you find the support you need.

It can be helpful to have your support person with you when you learn about your pregnancy options, so ask the clinic if their COVID-19 protocols allow it. If not, ask about having your support person with your virtually.

If you are struggling with deciding what to do after learning about your options, you can inquire about returning for another appointment to discuss your feelings. You can also ask for a referral to a mental health professional to help you decide.

Willowbrook Is Here To Help You

Reach out to Willowbrook Women’s Center today for practical help in coping with an unplanned pregnancy. Contact us for a confidential appointment to receive no-cost pregnancy services from caring licensed healthcare professionals.

How Likely Am I to Have a Miscarriage?

When you discover you’re unexpectedly pregnant, you are faced with difficult decisions that you hoped you would never be in a position to make. Women frequently ask themselves if the pregnancy might end on its own through miscarriage, and it’s a valid question.

A miscarriage is a natural pregnancy loss before twenty weeks of pregnancy, and they are common. Nearly 50% of all pregnancies end in miscarriage, and 15%-25% of known pregnancies miscarry. Eighty percent of miscarriages occur in the first twelve weeks of pregnancy.

Here we will learn more and discuss why miscarriages happen and how likely you are to have a miscarriage.

Why Do Miscarriages Happen?

According to March of Dimes, common underlying causes for miscarriage include:

1. Chromosome problems

Chromosomal problems in an embryo cause about 50% of all miscarriages.

2. Anatomic problems

When there are defects of the uterus, cervix, or other anatomic problems, it can lead to an inability for a woman’s body to maintain a healthy pregnancy, leading to miscarriage.

3. Infections

Infections such as sexually transmitted infections (STIs), chickenpox, and toxoplasmosis can also harm a healthy pregnancy and cause a miscarriage.

4. Certain health conditions

Autoimmune disorders, obesity, hormone problems, preexisting diabetes, clotting disorders, and other health conditions can also lead to miscarriage.

If you experience a miscarriage in the first trimester, you might be surprised to feel conflicting emotions when the pregnancy is unplanned. But it’s important to know that it isn’t your fault.

Signs and Symptoms of Miscarriage

If you know you’re pregnant and experience any of the following signs or symptoms of miscarriage, contact your healthcare provider.

The two most common signs and symptoms of miscarriage are:

  • Vaginal bleeding or spotting
  • Severe cramping or cramping on one side

How Likely Am I to Have a Miscarriage?

Miscarriage rates are higher the earlier you are in your pregnancy; the likelihood lessens the further along you are. So, how likely are you to have a miscarriage?

  • Week 3

Women often have miscarriages before they realize they are pregnant. The risk of miscarriage during week three is 30% to as high as 50%.

  • Weeks 5-6

Between your fifth and sixth week of pregnancy, your risk of miscarriage lowers to between 14% and 20%. At this point, your period would be one to two weeks late, yet you still might think you’re just having a late and heavier period if you haven’t taken a pregnancy test.

  • Weeks 7-12

If you had a positive pregnancy test, which was also confirmed with a heartbeat by ultrasound, your chances of miscarriage are approximately 10%.

Confirm Your Pregnancy

If you are considering abortion for your unexpected pregnancy, it’s critical to confirm that you have a viable pregnancy to prevent having an abortion you don’t need. A viable pregnancy is in the uterus and shows signs of progressing normally, and that can only be determined by ultrasound.

At Willowbrook Women’s Center, we provide confidential and no-cost services to you to help you determine how likely you are to miscarry. Our licensed healthcare professionals are available to walk you through one step at a time so that you can make an informed decision about your pregnancy with confidence. Be empowered by making an appointment today.